Introduction
When I was younger, I believed that my family would disown me if they knew that I was transgender. I didn’t feel like myself, so how could they see me? Even though no one ever said anything directly to me about being transgender, other people’s reactions to my appearance definitely shaped my own self-image. If someone made fun of how effeminate or masculine I looked (or both), it reinforced this belief that there was something wrong with me—and then it became harder for me to be comfortable with myself when others were around.
Wear what you like.
If you're a woman and you want to feel sexy, wear what makes you feel good. If it's something that makes someone else uncomfortable, then don't wear it. If there is a piece of clothing in your closet that makes one of your friends uncomfortable, leave it out! Don't waste time trying on clothes in front of other people when they don't like them (or even worse: being told how great their body looks). Don't worry about what other people think—it matters only if YOU'RE wearing something for YOURSELF!
Accept and embrace your body, exactly as it is.
Accept and embrace your body, exactly as it is.
Your sexual orientation and gender identity are not the same thing. They are two different things that go hand in hand with each other—you can’t be transgender if you aren’t attracted to other people of the same gender, for example. But there is still a lot of confusion about what “being transgender” means for people who aren't exclusively attracted toward their own sex (or sometimes even just one particular sex). It's important to remember that being transgender isn't about how much fun you had at your last party or how many people liked your outfit; it's about how well-adjusted you feel inside yourself when no one else knows what makes up who YOU ARE AS A PERSON!
Accepting yourself will help improve self-esteem because once we no longer feel ashamed of ourselves because someone else didn't accept us--and only ourselves--we'll start seeing ourselves in a more positive light."
Fake that glow of confidence.
One of the most important things that you can do to feel sexy and confident as a transgender person is fake it until you make it.
It's easy to get stuck in your own head, especially when you're just starting out on your journey. You might think that everyone else has already figured out how to be confident and attractive, but they haven't! And even if they have figured it out, no one knows what life is like for someone who feels like an outsider at school or work every day. Everyone has their own unique path through transition—and there's no one way that works for everyone—so don't worry about failing too much or taking risks if those things aren't something that come naturally for YOU yet!
When I first started hormones (I did transition several years ago), I had trouble finding an outfit that felt right; when my mother asked me why she couldn't see any change in my appearance (other than facial hair), I explained that there wasn’t anything noticeable because our bodies didn’t match each other very well yet; however, once we started working together with makeup artists at home parties (where we would host parties for other LGBTQ people), we were able to create more personalized looks without having much knowledge about how exactly this process works behind closed doors...
Groom yourself.
Groom yourself.
This is the most important thing you can do for yourself, because it will help make your transition easier and more successful. You should have a regular haircut, use deodorant and other hygiene products that are appropriate for your gender identity (if necessary), keep yourself clean and dry, wear clothes that fit well enough to show off the best parts of your body without making them look too tight or baggy—and don't forget to trim those beards!
Dress for your shape.
Dressing for your body shape is a lot like dressing for your personality. You may want to wear something that makes you feel sexy, confident and attractive (or at least comfortable). It's also important to consider what kind of clothing works best with how others perceive you—you don't want them seeing a boy in heels or makeup when they could be looking at someone who is transgender. So think about what looks good on the Internet, but remember that these are just examples; there's no one way everyone should look!
It's easy to get stuck in a rut when it comes down to this stuff because so much depends on personal preference and comfort levels. If all else fails then just try out different styles until something clicks!
Dress comfortably.
Wear clothes that are comfortable for you.
Wear clothes that make you feel good.
Don't be afraid to wear what you like, even if other people think it's ugly and weird.
Don't be afraid to wear what others like, even if they don’t understand why or how it makes sense for YOU.*
Know who your allies are in public.
Know who your allies are.
Know who is on your side.
Know who will support you, and when you need it most.
Understand that not everyone is going to feel comfortable with what you're doing or say in public, but some people will stand up for you when no one else will—so take advantage of them!
Navigate male-dominated spaces with confidence.
Know your rights. In the United States, transgender people are protected under Title IX of the Education Amendments Act of 1972 and are allowed to use restrooms that correspond with their gender identity in public schools and universities. You should also know that if you feel unsafe while using a public bathroom, there are laws in place to protect you from harassment or violence by others who may see you as an "abomination" or an "alien."
Be prepared for harassment: Some transgender people will experience verbal abuse on their way into the bathroom; others may be physically assaulted by someone who does not agree with their gender identity or expression. If this happens to you and someone tries to stop what happened through physical force (e.g., punching), contact the police immediately so they can respond quickly enough before things get out of hand!
Find your people and be in the space with those who support you and lift you up.
Finding your people and being in the space with those who support you and lift you up is one of the most important things you can do. When I was going through my own journey, I found it really hard to feel confident because so many of my friends didn’t understand what I was going through. So make sure that you surround yourself with people who will help you on this journey.
I also believe that it helps if we allow ourselves time away from social media and other sites where we see only negative pictures of ourselves or others – there are plenty out there!
Be confident in yourself so others will follow your example
Being confident in yourself is the key to success. If you’re not confident, others will pick up on your lack of self-esteem and doubt their own abilities. This can lead to a downward spiral that prevents you from reaching your full potential as a leader or even just an individual person.
Confidence is contagious, so if someone shares some of their positive traits with us (or vice versa), they become more attractive than when they didn't have any confidence at all! Being able to show off your strengths will make other people want to work with you because they know there's no way anyone could do what YOU do better than YOU could!
Conclusion
We've talked about all the ways that you can feel sexy and confident as a transgender person. It's easy to feel like you have nothing to wear, but there are resources out there for t-girl fashion. If you're not sure where to look, ask us! We'll be happy to give you some tips on what looks best on your body type. Remember: no matter how much effort you put into looking your best, it's important that people know who you are inside as well--and that includes both how effeminate or masculine (or other) gender identities come through in your presentation outside of
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